Don't you love smiling? Don't you love it when you get all warm inside, and feel your cheekbones rise for a reason that is so miniscule it makes you laugh because you're still doing it?
Last night, in the midst of solving a very confusing situation I've come to realize quite alot. The aftermath of a breakup is pretty devastating, right? I'm sure all if not most can agree with that. We all go through this crazy process, where some days we feel absolutely wonderful inside, and the other days like we are the ugliest thing existing on this Earth. Well what differentiates the girls who are better off alone from the girls who don't understand why they are crying everyday?
My theory is this (it is somewhat tied up to the ABC theory but... whatever)
In psychology class, Dr. Travis taught us that the main reason why people get overly depressed is because they have some sort of belief that makes them depress. In their head, correct me if I'm wrong, a girl believes that if a male chose to leave her... its probably because she just wasn't good enough. When a woman feels that she isn't good enough, she then magnifies her flaws. She then goes to the extremes such as "no one wants me" and so on and so forth. Don't deny it, I've gone through that as well, but its okay. She then takes the advice of other people that well.. no one truly "gets over" someone until they encounter a new person worthy of time investment. The woman is desperate to find someone new that when its quite obvious that she isn't finding anyone, she falls back into thoughts of her ex-lover and how he was "perfect" for her. What disappoints me in this situation is that no one should feel like they need someone there.
Over this weekend I've surrounded myself with people who enjoy being single, or at least they know how to deal with it.
This is where I become extremely excited that I'm not one of those depressed girls. One should be relieved not being in a relationship. Why? Because we're only 18-19 and a relationship shouldn't be our number one priority. These are the best years of our lives, do you really want to be tied down by a significant other? I don't know about you, but I've never felt so great in my life. Girls, you need to explore yourself... find out what YOU like, not what some guy would like about you. You go out and have fun for yourself, laugh and smile because you want to, just do everything for YOURSELF and no one else. Girls who fail to see that life is only as good as it is alone than it is to be in a relationship miss out on the rest of life. Seriously, life is too precious to let it go to waste over some guy that took up..what? like a couple of years of your life. In the BIG picture, 2-3 years is nothing compared to the 70 years you will be living.
So smile, have some fun, and be happy cus (: you deserve it.
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